10 Reasons Why You Don’t Get What you Want
by Susan Abrams Milligan, author of the series, “BEing Spiritually Intelligent”
1— You are not grateful for what you have already.
2— You don’t really know what you want nor willing to visualize it.
3— You don’t ask for it when you do know what you want.
4— You don’t expect it once you ask for it.
5— You don’t recognize it when you do get it.
6— You don’t take action toward creating it.
7— You are impatient and unwilling to wait for Divine Right Timing.
8— You are not REALLY open to allowing it into your life.
9— You are married to the idea that it must look a certain way.
10— You are not grateful when you get it.
Ordained Minister Graduation
Last month I graduated as an Ordained Metaphysical Minister. This milestone is another continuing educational step for me toward a much broader, deeper purpose as I progress toward 2020 – the year of clear vision. It’s both humbling and exciting.
My 2016 One-Word Divine Intention
Every year about this time I reflect back on what lessons the year has brought me, how I responded, how I grew personally/professionally, and what I desire to improve in the coming year. It’s at this time I choose a one-word Divine Intention that acts as a theme throughout the coming new year in all areas of my life: mind, body, emotion and spirit. This one-word often drives my personal and professional goals. I’ve done this instead of a resolution, because it works well for me and many people whom I’ve coached or use the same strategy have found it to be highly effective for them too. Let’s just be real … resolutions are forgotten within weeks, so why continue to set them?
My 2016 one-word Divine Intention is … NATURAL
What does this mean, and how will I interlace it into all areas of my life?
In some ways I have already been moving toward a “natural” lifestyle over the course of a few years. However, in 2016 I’ll be welcoming more naturalness into my life. Because I have slowly been experiencing the rewards of going (and growing) naturally, I’m ready to evolve my life outside of the bubble and naturally allow it to play out fully. Here’s what I mean …
Natural Mind & Emotion
- Going with the flow to naturally grow deeper, wider and higher into my authentic self regardless of what is going on around me, and who thinks or says what about me. I intuitively know that what other people think or say about me is simply a reflection of themselves and a part of themselves they have not yet accepted.
- Allowing others to be who they are and knowing it has nothing to do with me. Then naturally letting it play out as it was meant to BE.
- Allowing others to be in my life, or BEing okay if they are not. I intuitive know that nothing is forever, and I meet people to exchange some form of energy that teaches us both something. Some stay for a lifetime and some don’t; I’m okay either way. I’ve found that those relationships that have grown naturally are the most lasting.
- Letting go naturally and with ease any emotional attachments to material items, concepts, beliefs, environments and relationships that are not serving me.
Natural Spirit
- Naturally moving forward with ease and grace into further mind-body-spirit education and experiential practices, so I may help myself and others free themselves from the grip of the “unnatural” cycle.
- For me, life is an ebb and flow. When I live my life outside of the bubble, well … life happens, and I’m open to naturally ‘feeling’ what comes and allowing it to move away on it’s own accord.
- Letting go of things that I have felt were unnatural but had been ignoring my own intuition.
- Respecting myself first by only BEing in the presence of others who honor and respect me – authentically – not artificially. At this stage in my life and having been through 2 years of challenges that I regard as experiential growth, I’m not willing to be part of any games.
Natural Physical Well-BEing
- Allowing myself to naturally wake up with the sunrise and wind down with the sunset.
- Cooking and eating more natural, unprocessed and healthy foods.
- Reduce stress, increase metabolism, and reduce inflammation are my primary focus.
- Eating in alignment with my own natural Circadian rhythm, while naturally paying attention to how I feel before and after I eat, how I sleep, function throughout the day, and my energy level during exercise.
- Participating in pleasurable exercise that feels natural. No more pushing, shoving, punching, pinching, nor fighting against my natural biology and physiology. Honoring and loving my body no matter its size or shape IS loving myself for who I am and moving closer to who I was meant to BE.
For more information on how to start your own annual theme and perhaps spark some inspiration in choosing your own one-word 2016 Divine Intention, see my previous posts:
Choose: 2016 One-Word Divine Intention
Set Your Divine Intention for 2015
2016 One-Word Divine Intention
It’s that time of year when we reflect on the previous year, and create personal intentions of what we want to create the coming year. Choose one word that best describes what you want to create.
Why choose “one” word? Most people create a long list of resolutions and never stick with it. Within a few months their list is forgotten. However, choosing one word and incorporating it into our every day life in ALL areas of our life over a full year, works incredibly well for many. If “intention” doesn’t feel right to you, then consider it a theme you will follow throughout the year. I honestly cannot remember where I heard about this personal challenge (likely a book from the mid 90s), but I’ve done it every year since that time.
Remember the mantra, “How you do anything is how you do everything.” This is a quote from one of my leadership mentors, the late Brian Klemmer. And the word I’ve chosen over the years has interestingly played a significant role in many areas of my life: mind, body, spirit, emotion, relationships, family, friends, finances, etc.
For example, my word in 2011 was ‘move’. What this means to me and how it covered many areas in my life: Move my body, move my mind, move forward on personal goals, move into and beyond my dreams, move out things not working, move relationships closer, move projects to completion, move closer to God/source, and move to a warmer climate.
To learn more about the process, and see a list of my one-word Divine Intentions from back into the mid 90s (perhaps to spark something within you), see my post from last year:
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I’ve been quite clear about my word for 2016 for some time now, and will be posting it after Christmas.
Your Uniqueness Has Value
Always be mindful that your value has no-thing to do with anyone’s thoughts, opinion about you, nor their actions toward you. Your value has no-thing to do with your net worth, network, job title, level of authority, education status, or possessions. Living in a comparative reality takes you further away from your #authentic self. Just because everyone else is doing _______ (fill in the blank), doesn’t mean it’s right for you, and if anyone doubts that, it isn’t you that they are doubting. They are doubting themselves, because they still seek validation from the outside to build confidence. Confidence is only built from within. Confidence built from outside of you will always be temporary, which requires you to seek more validation from others. It’s a vicious cycle that creates unhappiness even in people who attempt to hide it by overcompensating, ie. ultra competitive, loud and aggressive. #coaching
We have all heard people say to follow the crowd, be a team player, or to emulate someone else, however, they only say that because someone told them that was the best way to be in life. They believed it without checking in with their own intuition. They may not even realize they have intuition because someone told them it wasn’t real or didn’t matter. But you see, trying to be someone else isn’t BEing Life at all. It’s playing small, because it’s taking you further away from your #trueself. It’s great to learn from people who we trust, respect and who stretch us to be greater, and of course to support a team of truly trustworthy people. However, take what you learn from others that serves you and leave the rest behind. Celebrate who you are! Your uniqueness has value and it is in that unique part of you that you begin to spiritually evolve and inspire others to grow and step into their own unique self. #spiritualintelligence
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